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Saying goodbye is hard

By Niels Lameijer on Feb 05, 2010 at 12:00 AM in Life Mastery Coaching, My Life


One of the main reasons for traveling back this time is my grandmother (Oma). She is experiencing the first symptoms of Dementia, forgetfulness. She has a tough time remembering about anything in her recent past. I wanted to visit her before this strange experience is clouding her mind even more.

Oma 2010

Today I went for tea and when she asked me for the fourth time whether I wanted another Stroopwafel (another Dutch cookie favorite of mine), I smiled at her. She thought for a minute and said: “I ask you this already, didn’t I?" Then she went on sharing in an almost scientific way that it was so strange that she really did not remember asking it at all.

Oma is conscious that she cannot remember things in her recent past, even the three week hospital stay is completely whipped out. This is just so mind baffling to me, the brain really works in mysterious ways.

I feel blessed that I am able to be here now, and spend some time with both my grandparents. I cherish all the fond memories I have from spending some summers here, camping in their back yard, cycling from tennis tournament to tennis tournament.

I am very much looking forward to seeing them a few more times before my departure next week and know that saying good bye next week will be a warm and slightly sad hug.

I love my life in the United States, and have to say that being so many miles and time-zones away from my family is the hardest part of my emigration.