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What to do when feeling overcommitted?

By Niels Lameijer on Apr 06, 2010 at 12:00 AM in General, Life Mastery Coaching

Feeling overcommitted

Every now and then there seems to be a general theme working with my clients as their Life Mastery Coach. This week it had to do with the sensation of being "overcommitted."

As first signs of feeling "overcommitted" I hear a lot of complaints like: "I have no down time," "by the end of the day, I am completely exhausted," and "I have not done anything I like in weeks!"

Calendars are jamm-packed and people are racing to and from all kinds of events, social gatherings, and activities besides attending to their already busy task and goals calendar.  When become such full calendars actually a problem?

What happens when the feeling of being over committed appears? Generally you feel that the commitments are "HAVE TO's" instead of things you really WANT TO do in your life.

A way of interpreting a feeling of overwhelm is that you have lost touch with your desires, what is it you truly want in life? So what to do?

Saying yes: with saying yes, you are saying no to something else.

Realize that you are making a choice, every time. So ask yourself by saying yes to or committing yourself to X, what choice are you making? An example: by committing to saying yes to a party invitation, you say no to a relaxing evening at home with a movie. So your yes was a choice, a choice of party over purely you time.

We all know that when the oxygen masks in the airplane come down, you have to put it on yourself first and then you assist you child or your neighbor. Is this selfish? You are indeed making sure you take care of yourself first, because when you are 100% ok you can take care in the best way of others!

If you have a challenge finding your choices and choosing for yourself, write it out. See yourself as a science experiment and analyze your actions and thought patterns. Best time to do this most of the time is the mornings. I am sure you will come up with something insightful!